One-way feedback conversations come in one of two types. The first is the sandwich, where the manager presents the performer with what they did well, “sandwiches” in negative feedback in the middle, and wraps it up with more positive feedback. It’s a habit based on years and years of history “giving feedback” – and it’s a habit we have to break. Remember, if you tell the performer, the conversation is one way, but if you ask them, it is now two way.
The second is the seagull model, which is even worse. This is a situation where the manager doesn’t attempt to engage the performer – they simply state negative feedback and move on. This is why I liken it to seagulls - they “fly by, poop and fly on”. You never want to provide seagull feedback.
Feedback must be a two-way conversation with self-discovery by the performer being the first and most critical step.
The two-way Effective Feedback conversation has four easy-to-follow steps:
1. Ask the performer what they did well.
2. You add what you feel they did well.
3. Ask the performer what they will do differently next time.
4. You add what you would suggest they do differently next time.
Steps one and two build confidence. We need confident team members. Steps three and four build skill. All four steps create a confident, skilled and engaged team member.
Do we spend an equal amount of time in each of these steps? No. Definitely not! Different people have different capacities for feedback and different abilities to assimilate information. Those lacking confidence need more in steps one and two. Those who are very confident but lack skill need more time in steps three and four, but be careful that it comes after reinforcing confidence in steps one and two.
Effective two-way feedback is common sense. The four steps are not a scientific breakthrough, but they are not common practice. Making them common practice will engage your team.
Once this four-step process is in place and well embedded in your culture, you’ll find team members are so well versed in feedback that they can actually provide themselves with clear, actionable, realistic and balanced feedback on a daily basis.
About the Author
Kevin Higgins is the CEO of Fusion Learning Inc., recognized by Selling Power as one of the top 20 sales training companies in North America, and as one of Canada’s Top Small & Medium Employers for 2014. He is the author of Engage Me: Strategies From The Sales Effectiveness Source, available on Amazon. For more information, visit www.fusionlearninginc.com.